Thu Jun 14 2001
location=: australia

I am a 16 year old girl doing a project on AIDS for school and i was just wondering if you would be able to send me some information on AIDS. Preferably the signs that you get when you have AIDS.
my story is that i was going out with a guy last year and he got me drunk one day when i was over his house. I passed out and a couple of hours later he woke me up and took me home. He had slept with me.
after we broke up, he told me that he had slept with a prosititute who had HIV but he didn't say n e thing about him having it. that was last year and i am really worried.
i am going to the hospital to get a test done in two days. i am just really worried....i mean i might not have it but if i do, i will come back and tell you.

thanks for visiting the site and if you go back to the 'Frequently asked questions' page you will see the answers to questions people have asked and this will give you the information you may need.
As for your story, well l hope that you find that the results come back negative. Think positively, you are not 100% sure that he was HIV+ but it is totally irresponsible for anyone to have unsafe sex, especially in his situation.
I guess l have to also bring up the point of unconcensual sex, none of this is your fault but l would hope that you have spoken to your mother or someone that can council you, this is not something you should face alone.
As for getting the HIV test, yes, do it straight away and this will give you the answer to the biggest thing worrying you. A lot of young girls have written to the site when they are about to get tested and are of course worried and scared like you.
Perhaps go back to the site and read some of the 'Feedback pages' or go to the 'Messages - WebBoard'. You will need one more than one test but your Dr will explain this to you. Please let me know how you go and find someone who will be there to support you regardless of the results.
Good-luck,
Carolena
project manager

hello again :) how r u? thankyou for writing back to me. i haven't had the test done yet but i am getting it done this weekend i think. i wasn't able to find the frequently asked questions in the site...im not sure where they are. i have got someone to help me through this if i have it and he is my boyfriend. he is so caring and he told me no matter if i have it or not...we are still getting married as we are getting engaged in a couple of weeks :) thankyou

Good-luck to you and l hope everything works out for you. If you need to look at the questions and answers section on the site l'll give you the URL.....hopefully you won't need it but it never hurts to know more about safe-sex and HIV anyhow. http://www.HIVAIDS.webcentral.com.au/text/faq.html
Good-luck Carolena

i llive in a town where sex is often partaken in, but rarely truthfully spoken about. i could tell of 100 stories where kids slept with someone unprotected and thought that because they were not sleeping with everyone that they would not get the AIDS virus.
T eenagers, even elementary school children are having unprotected sex. i thought i had AIDS or some type of virus last summer so i got checked, and thank god I am AIDS free. you know maybe masturbation should be more openly spoken about. protection to me means nothing abstinence is really the key factor. and you know it does not make you gay to hold out on sex until you are married. Everyone says i wish i would have waited until i was ready, how about waiting until you are married like in a church. it is not something to be thrown around or something a girl or a guy can use as a threat or a pasttime. Back in the day people got married arond 15 , 16 years old, maybe that is why there was a lesser occurence of AIDS or stds. shoot i do not really know. if you are gay and sleeping with another man when you have a girl than you should dunp that girl and you and your guy should go get get checked out. the same goes for girls, gay or straight or bisexual. if anything i do not feel the need the need at the moment to be in a sexual reltionship right now i would rather take that sexual energy and release it in other ways like exercising, like playing an instrument, like reading, or writing. whatever i do, i just make sure that i feel healthy and having sex , right now, at least, does not feel all that great.

sir, i wld like to know how does AIDS occur............does it occur if we dont use CONDOMS.........and if its imp to use CONDOMS to prevent AIDS than what if a person wants a child...........can a child be born by using condom. pls reply to me since one of my friend is getting married and he has asked this questions to me

Go back to the web site and have a look at this page http://www.HIVAIDS.webcentral.com.au/text/faq.html
This will answer many questions about HIV and AIDS.
Regards,
Carolena Helderman
project manager

I'M VERY SCARED. MY FAMILY IS TURING AGANIST ME. I MET AND FELL IN LOVE WITH A WONDERFUL MAN HOWEVER I'M SCARED FOR THE BOTH OF US. PEOPLE TEND TO BE ENGNORANT TO THINGS THAT THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND SO THEY LASH OUT IN A NEGITIVE WAY AND THIS IS WHAT I'M GETTING FROM MY FAMILY MEMBERS. IT'S LIKE THEY ARE TELLING EVERYONE THAT I KNOW. AND I'M AFRAID THE SOMEONE IS GOING TO TRY AND HURT ME. HOW CAN I STOP THIS FROM HAPPENING TO US.

Hello,
I'm sorry for the delay in writing back to you and saddened to hear that you are in such a situation and not getting the support needed by your family. From what you have written, l am not totally sure wether they are against you because you are HIV positive or your boyfriend is HIV+.
Either way, as you say, some people react in strange ways because they are scared and that comes down to not knowing enough and needing more information. I hope that they are understanding enough to at least want to try. I would suggest that you call an organisation and see if there is someone you can talk to or be sent information which may help your situation. Always remember that you have not done anything wrong and you need support from somebody who has been through your situation, try calling the AIDS hotline.
Florida AIDS Hotline
In Florida, in English: (800) 352-AIDS
In Haitian Creole: (800) 243-7101
In Spanish: (800) 545-SIDA TTY:
1-888-503-7118 Ocala/Marion County Community AIDS Network (OMCCAN): (352)-629-5124
All the best to you,
Carolena Helderman
project manager HIV/AIDS Positive Stories

Hi out there - I'm looking for a web site for mothers of adult children with HIV/AIDS
- Can you help me find one?
Thank you diane

Hello,
I've had a search and this is what l've come up with, they may be able to give you additional information and links to other sites
. Mothers' Voices is the only national, non-profit, grassroots organization mobilizing parents as educators and advocates for HIV prevention.
http://www.mvoices.org/index_new.html
Have a look a the 'Activist Moms and friends' section.
Good luck with your search and remember to go back to my site and do a search at the bottom of the pages, there is a lot of stories from family members on the site and perhaps you'd like to add your story or just a bit of information to support other mothers.
All the best,
Carolena Helderman
project manager HIV/AIDS Positive Stories

I've never been scared off easily and have always been interested in HIV/AIDS, i feel deeply saddend by the outcome of the disease, but know that there is no point looking backwards, only forwards is the way to go,
l just want to let all the hiv/aids suffers know, that l admire there outlook on life, and the way they deal with the situation. There is new developments going on, and know one should give up hope they should keep fighting, a lot more people understand than they did years ago, when the disease first came out.
God bless to all of you!!